I have learned over time that creating a 'TO DO' list is a helpful and productive daily activity. It keeps me on track, helps me to prioritise and reduces any anxiety or worry about having "too many things to do" by writing the things down on paper and out of my head.
But how often have you started your day with a 'TO BE' list? Taking the time to stop and reflect on how you want to interact with the world, other people and yourself for the day? It is no wonder that we can at times feel disconnected from the 'spark' in our lives when we focus on the doing, the tasks and goals rather than our inner desires and who we want to be. We can become lost.
The values that we want to represent are like our life compass. A compass gives you direction and keeps you on track when you are on an adventure and traveling. Your values do the same thing in your journey of life. Once you have identified the qualities you want to stand for, they can be used to guide you towards moves that bring about a rich, full and meaningful life.
Remember that values and goals (to do lists) are different. When you act on a value, it is like you are following your compass North. It gives you the DIRECTION that is important to you. You can move towards North at any time. Your goals, on the other hand, are the things you achieve and REACH along the journey - reading a book, cooking dinner for you partner or handing in an assignment.
So before you write down your list of tasks to complete today, how about trying to come up with some words on your TO BE list? Consider this: imagine it is your eightieth birthday and some people important to you (that you will see today) are there. They get up and make wonderful speeches about you, what you stand for and what you have meant to them in their lives. What words would you like to hear them use? Try to let go of your judgmental brain and imagine the words they would use in an ideal world.
When you get to the end of your day, ask yourself if you have done things (even the smallest of acts) that show you've been that person.
My TO BE list today: as a dad and in the domain of my family relationships -be playful, present and affectionate. What's on yours?
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