Ok, so I'm open to the full range of emotions that create the richness of life. Sure, I'm not the biggest fan of embarrassment or anxiety when it comes along, but I am learning to make space for them when I am chasing what's important to me. I also believe that the very things that can add extreme joy and love to your life can also bring along sadness and loss (for example, my wedding day is by far one of the most special and heart-warming days I have ever lived, yet that very same relationship has also brought along moments of frustration!). What I am trying to say is, it's not always helpful to chase happiness and avoid everything else. Moments of sadness can add just as much vitality to your day; they can remind you of how much you value others, they can spur you on to take action, and they can help you to 'catch up' on romantic comedies while you take a time out on the couch.
With that in mind, why not intentionally do something that brightens your heart? Research has shown that having a project to put your time and energy into can improve your mood and outlook on life. So I have come up with a challenge for you. I was recently inspired by this TED talk:
Essentially, director Cesar Kuriyama shoots one second of video every day as part of an ongoing project to collect all the special bits of his life. He ponders the idea that, as there are so many tiny, beautiful, funny, tragic moments in your life -- how are you going to remember them all?
While I'm not sure about the concept of recording a second of each day for the rest of your life (which might become quite obsessive and start to draw you OUT of each moment) I like the idea of it encouraging you to intentionally engage more in each day. For someone who has struggled to do this, such action on a daily basis might provide the initial motivation to get out of your head and into your life. To wake up with an intention to do something with your day and then capture it.
So the project in it's simplicity: my two sisters, my mum, and myself have committed to starting a 30 day (thus 30 second) film project. All starting on the same day. All using the One Second Every Day app (yes we have succumbed to some marketing and electronic influence). Given that we don't see each other than often, this seems like a fun way to connect. I am looking forward to seeing what they all come up with. From a therapist perspective, I would also argue that it encourages mindful, values-guided action across the important parts of you life as highlighted in 'The Bullseye' (from Swedish ACT therapist Tobias Lundgren): relationships, leisure, personal growth and even education (it took a little bit to figure out how to use the app!).
I'll let you know how it goes in 30 days :)
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